Have you ever been hurt or betrayed by someone you cared about? Has someone ever let you down or disappointed you? Of course you have! Part of learning some really valuable lessons in this life involve us learning how to interact with others, how to build relationships and who to build them with. Inevitably, this means we sometimes make choices which do not end well.
Despite this happening to each and every one of us at some point in our lives, some people carry so much pain, hurt or anger for those who have done them wrong that an event that may have happened long ago in their past, is still greatly impacting their present.
Whenever I meet a client in this kind of negative cycle, they are usually feeling low, stressed, anxious, lacking confidence and some are even experiencing physical problems too. As the great Buddha once said “Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned”. And I see those burn marks on a weekly basis.
Whilst we sometimes need to take time to allow ourselves to feel the full range of emotions caused by an event like this, it is not helpful to keep holding onto them but at the same time, letting go is often very difficult. In my experience, things can be changed simply with one single act.
Every night before you go to bed, simply wish that person who did you wrong peace. This may feel really difficult at first if you are still harbouring hatred for them, however if your persevere something magical happens, you see it becomes impossible to wish anyone peace without then receiving it yourself.
In a relatively short space of time, you will have turned the situation around and a lot of those negative feelings will have completely evaporated.