When things go wrong in our lives no matter how small or huge, it is really easy to look externally for why those things have gone wrong, maybe seeing that someone else was to blame, or thinking that a situation may have been different if you had more money, more time, more opportunity, maybe you just think you are unlucky?
The thing is, every time something goes wrong and we start looking outside for the reason, we never fix the problem nor grow, which prevents us from moving on. When everything in your life seems to be crumbling around your feet, you could well wallow and feel sorry for yourself for weeks, allowing blame to be placed on everyone and everything around you. However, if you are motivated to work out why things had gone wrong and what responsibility you had in things falling apart, you will have a completely different experience in the event.
This is crucial, the minute you can take responsibility for your part in anything going wrong is the minute you are willing to learn and grow from the experience. If we allow ourselves to believe everyone else is to blame, we step into a victim mentality and it is here that we set ourselves up to keep receiving and attracting the same lessons.
It is important to note that in taking responsibility for your part does not exonerate the behaviour of others, if someone has treated you badly then that is their issue and all you need to do is practice healthy forgiveness. However, understanding your responsibility within the situation will help you to heal and prevent attract the same type of person again.
Every single course I teach ultimately has self responsibility as a core lesson within it because I believe that it is from here that we can truly grow and become our authentic selves. It often requires a mind shift for individuals in order to do this, especially if they have long believed that life is happening TO them rather than them having any responsibility for it, but the results in starting to accept responsibility for our lives are incredible.
Within no time at all, you get a sense that you are reclaiming your own power, if you can identify repeated mistakes, beliefs or judgements that you may be making, you are then able to make adaptations and change them.