Life often gives us moments where we feel low, depressed or like everything is just going wrong. During these times, every now and then, we may not like to admit it but we enjoy a good wallow! A period of time where we allow ourselves to feel down. However, it is neither healthy nor fun for us to stay in this place and it is important we acknowledge this and learn how to lift our mood.
One of the worst things at a time like this is a well meaning friend who tells you to ‘cheer up’ or ‘there are lots of people worse off than you’. Of course, we know they are trying to help but often its more irritating than uplifting and only deepens our mood.
I’ve found, that when I feel like this, a great way to switch my mood and feel more energetic is to give thanks for what I do have, in my own way and on my own terms. I know it may be hard to begin with but the more practiced you get at this, the easier it becomes.
So, when you feel like this, do you really notice what is around you? Do you take a deep breath, step back and notice the view from your window? The sound of the birds singing? The picture on your desk that makes you smile? All the little things that we can so often become blind to.
You may have heard from the internationally acclaimed book ‘The Secret’ that they recommend you choose a stone to keep with you and every night before you go to sleep, you tell this stone all the things you are grateful for over the day so anything from your child giving you a hug at breakfast to seeing a beautiful daffodil on your way into work, no matter how big or small, you list them into your stone. The idea being that over time, when things get you down, you can look at this stone and be reminded of all the things you have to be grateful for.
Now I am not that keen on talking into a stone, and as I have explained before, I do love to use energy to write things down. So instead, I keep a note book where I write down simple sentences to remind me of lovely things, times and people. It is great to refer to it if I ever feel down.
It is true that we get what we focus on, if you have a bad arm isnt it funny how everyone seems to knock it? So if we focus on the things that make us grateful, it make sense that we will get more of these things. If we focus on the things that make us sad or angry, then we will also get more of these.
Give it a try and see what happens in your world!