If you are on a spiritual path, you may have noticed how sometimes this path can be very challenging and confusing. It seems one of the biggest challenges can be that we often lose people along the way on this journey and it is hurtful and hard to understand.
Surely we begin following a spiritual path and we become better people, don’t we? Nicer people to be around? Kinder? More compassionate and understanding? More enlightened? More tolerant?
However, if you embrace a more spiritual path and change from the person that you once were, you will naturally start to gravitate away from some people and towards others. What we once had in common with a great friend may now be hard to fathom if you have both moved in different directions. It is therefore not uncommon for people to start dropping off your radar – or friends list – and if you can only see that you are becoming a better person, you probably feel very hurt and bewildered as to why that is happening. No doubt, you will ask yourself, what have I done wrong? Here are a few explanations as to why things have changed.
We are all energetic beings and as such our molecules buzz around constantly. When we feel emotions such as joy, happiness, gratitude etc we vibrate on a high level. When we feel emotions such as sadness, anger, jealousy etc our vibration lowers. If you are meditating, practicing gratitude and becoming more compassionate than you used to be, then your vibration will be increasing however if a friend is continuing to live their lives as they have always done, they will remain as they always have. Therefore, you may find that you become energetically incompatible, even if you are not consciously aware of it.
I have mentioned this before but lets be honest, when we begin this path we can become total bores! We suddenly find that meditation, crystals, tarot, the law of attraction etc have changed our lives and we want to shout it from the rooftops. However, when we try to convert people, we instantly make them feel like they need to put the barriers up, nobody likes to be broadcast to in that way. However, if you begin to make changes and live your beliefs by demonstration, people are far more likely to gently come along for the ride.
When you open up to a spiritual life, you are having faith in something much bigger than you are, you therefore must learn to trust that sometimes things are changing in order for you to continue upon your path. We sometimes lose people in our lives to create space and opportunity for new people to come in, trust in the process. I love the old saying that people come into our lives for ‘a reason, a season or a lifetime’ trust in that and be grateful for however long they were in your life.
Forgive and Release
Our ego’s really do not like feeling as though people have stopped liking us, we become hurt, angry and resentful. Why did they delete me? Why did they ignore me? Our ego’s are stinging and we want to hurt them back or get answers. Instead of stewing over ‘why’ spend time sending forgiveness, do not dwell on things just offer that person (and yourself if necessary) forgiveness every time you think of them and then move on. Forgiveness is a way of freeing ourselves from hurtful patterns of behaviour so forgive and release.
If you are going through this kind of change, learn to really rely upon your gut as to why and when a relationship of any kind needs to cease or be worked upon. Trust your gut feelings about people and situations, if something does not feel right nor make you feel good, then walk away and only chase the things that make you feel great. Sometimes, we may have become too wrapped up in ourselves and neglected people who we still need around us, other times we have changed. Try and hold kindness and compassion in your heart no matter what the outcome, be grateful for the time you did have and move on with grace.