I’ve spoken many times about how happiness must not be seen as the reward we get for achieving something; money, status, family, awards … whatever you desire will never bring you the gift of happiness with it. Happiness is something we have to choose, just like we chose what clothes to wear and what food to eat, we can also choose what mood we want to be in.
Every day, I meet people who want to be happier, people who have experienced hard times, tragedies and more. When I give them their ‘homework’ to help them become happier, I am often met with some resistance. I hear comments like “I haven’t done much of my homework this week” or “I did some of the homework and it really helped but then I stopped doing it”.
I also know people sometimes look at me and think I must be happy all of the time, I must wake up grinning like a Cheshire cat and nothing gets me down.
Well unfortunately, I do not. Happiness is a choice I make over and over again, often countless times a day. Being happy is a practice, it is like going to the gym. Simply signing up and saying you are going to do it is not enough to make your body spring into shape, equally going to the gym every day for a week and then not going for a month will have little effect too.
To choose to be a happy person, you need to be hardcore. Happiness is not for the fainthearted. Happiness is for those who are so committed to living their happiest, highest and healthiest life that they work at it day in, day out.
Choosing your default mood to be happy is not for everyone, some people are comfortable where they are and in that, are content to have fleeting moments of happiness and that is just fine for them.
However, if you want to be permanently happier then you must put the work in, you need to accept that even in putting in the work you will still encounter difficult people, times and events. Being happy never means the absence of negative times, but it does mean that even within those times you are able to see the lessons, the potential and even the growth within them.
To really live we need to welcome all the emotions we are capable of feeling, to feel anger, annoyance, frustration and sadness is part of what makes us human.
Are you bold enough to make happiness the choice you make every day? Are you committed enough to work at your own happiness? Are you strong enough to know that happiness must come from you and not from something or someone outside of you?
Then stand up and claim your wonderful, miraculous, incredible, happy life each and every day!